Saturday, April 13, 2019

I am ME! - Chapter 72

My spiritual father and pastor, Prophet Oshea Morgan, gave me a homework assignment to do.  He told me to make a list of positive things about myself.  I've agreed to do the assignment.  So why not post it on my blog!

List of My Positive Attributes About Myself


  • I'm beautiful (It took me a very long time to believe that!)
  • I'm confident
  • I'm talented
  • I'm gifted
  • I love me
  • I like me
  • I'm always there for people I love
  • I'm reliable
  • I'm grateful
  • I'm a child of God
  • I am who God says I am
  • I AM ME!
Until next time...

Monday, April 8, 2019

I know...It's Been a Long Time! - Chapter 71


2019 is my Exodus year for me!  I believe it.  I receive it.  I decree it and declare it! Ever since I came back to New York from Chicago, I realize that I need total healing and deliverance from everything I’ve endured over the last 46 years.  I must conquer every fear, conquer every insecurity, and defeat every lie that’s been spoken upon me.

I’ve started this process with creating my very own website – tonjaewithers.com.  Everything about me is on this website!  My books, my ministry, and even my baking!  Go check it out: http://www.tonjaewithers.com

Tuesday, October 10, 2017

Don't Call Me Your "Sister" If I'm Really Not Your Sister! - Chapter 70

WOW!  So much has happened since I've last posted here.  I will mention everything I've gone through in a later post.

The big news is that I've written another book!  This time, as a solo project.  I'm pretty proud of this book because of the journey I've endured writing it.  The book is called Paradise in Singleness: Is It Possible?  The book was released in August 2017 and the premise of the book is a refreshing perspective on how we should view being single and how to take the necessary steps towards being made whole to obtain and nurture every relationship.  My book is available on Amazon: http://bit.ly/pisbook2.

I am a compassionate loving person and I am extremely loyal - to a fault.  If I say that I'm your friend, then I'm your friend.  If I say that I'm your sister, then I am your sister.  I do understand that I'm not everyone's "cup of tea" because many people, women, in particular, do not understand where I'm coming from.  Then again, I guess that I expect too much from women and expect to receive the same love and support as I give them.  Every time I invest in a friendship with women, most of the time, it doesn't work out.  Why can't we as women be truly happy and supportive of one another?  I know it is very few and far between, but is it really possible?

With the exception of my best friend (thank God at least I have one), I'm sadly believing that there's no such thing as a true "sisterhood!"  I guess I'll just have to get used to that!

Until next time....


Tuesday, February 7, 2017

Tasty Tuesdays - Chapter 69


Get your mocktails and/or Fimosas (Orange Juice & Sparkling Cider) ready 'cuz it's gonna get real JUICY! Join us every Tuesday night to discuss real topics and issues for ALL Christian singles! WARNING: This call is NOT for the faint of heart or for the "Virgin Ears!" We keep it all the way REAL & all the way JESUS!



Monday, January 9, 2017

I Hate That I'm Lonely - Chapter 68

I Hate That I'm Lonely

I hate that I'm lonely.
I hate that I come home to an empty house every night
No one asking me "How was your day?"
No one holding me tight with all of his might 
Nor kiss me on the forehead to make the bad day go away.

I hate that I'm lonely.
I hate that my bestie is not nearby
Nor don't have a friend I can trust due to them possibly leaving me 
Showing my positive attitude but inside I cry
Staying strong and loving as I can be.

I hate that I'm lonely.
Don't get me wrong!
I'm not about to jump off a cliff 
Or enter into the suicide zone
God is always there to give me a lift
So I maybe lonely, but I'm not alone!

Still, I hate that I'm lonely...

(c) 2017 - Tonja E. Withers

Sunday, January 1, 2017

2017 - The Year of Release! - Chapter 67

Day One of 2017 - I have been interviewed for an online Christian magazine!  Check it out (pages 15 & 17-18)!  http://www.victorymagazine.online/january-2017/


Saturday, November 12, 2016

Authors of A Single Perspective Tonja E. Withers & Angela D. Valentine 11/15 by Vibration Radio | Women Podcasts

Authors of A Single Perspective Tonja E. Withers & Angela D. Valentine 11/15 by Vibration Radio | Women Podcasts: On This Episode of Teh Beautiful Butterfly Radio Show We Welcome the Author of ' A Single Perspective : A Woman's Journey to Wholeness' Tonja E. Withers & Angela D. Valentine . We will discuss how the two ladies came together to create this book, and what they hope people will gain from reading it as well and MORE!!! Meet Our Guests: TONJA E. WITHERS is a saved, single woman in her 40's who has never been married nor has children. She has boldly shared her testimony on how she overcame her struggles with lust, loneliness and insecurities. She is a living witness that singles can find joy in everyday life. She is the founder of The S.I.M. Factor (Singles in Ministry) - a ministry dedicated to empowering and encouraging Christian singles worldwide. ANGELA D. VALENTINE has been a baptized, Spirit-filled believer since the age of 9. She is a preacher's wife, mother of one beautiful son, author, speaker, and psalmist. A true teacher at heart, she has enjoyed ministering the Gospel and serving as Director of Music & Worship Ministries for over 20 years. She has a passion for mentoring women and youth. She is the founder of The Virtuous Businesswomen's Network where she leads an online community of international Christian women in business. Together, Angela and Tonja co-host Single Sisters' Saturdays, a monthly webinar and teleconference sponsored by The Virtuous Businesswomen's Network. These sessions are designed to help women tackle various topics that are not commonly discussed in church settings. Their goal is to help all women (both single and married) be made whole.