Tuesday, February 7, 2017

Tasty Tuesdays - Chapter 69


Get your mocktails and/or Fimosas (Orange Juice & Sparkling Cider) ready 'cuz it's gonna get real JUICY! Join us every Tuesday night to discuss real topics and issues for ALL Christian singles! WARNING: This call is NOT for the faint of heart or for the "Virgin Ears!" We keep it all the way REAL & all the way JESUS!



Monday, January 9, 2017

I Hate That I'm Lonely - Chapter 68

I Hate That I'm Lonely

I hate that I'm lonely.
I hate that I come home to an empty house every night
No one asking me "How was your day?"
No one holding me tight with all of his might 
Nor kiss me on the forehead to make the bad day go away.

I hate that I'm lonely.
I hate that my bestie is not nearby
Nor don't have a friend I can trust due to them possibly leaving me 
Showing my positive attitude but inside I cry
Staying strong and loving as I can be.

I hate that I'm lonely.
Don't get me wrong!
I'm not about to jump off a cliff 
Or enter into the suicide zone
God is always there to give me a lift
So I maybe lonely, but I'm not alone!

Still, I hate that I'm lonely...

(c) 2017 - Tonja E. Withers

Sunday, January 1, 2017

2017 - The Year of Release! - Chapter 67

Day One of 2017 - I have been interviewed for an online Christian magazine!  Check it out (pages 15 & 17-18)!  http://www.victorymagazine.online/january-2017/


Saturday, November 12, 2016

Authors of A Single Perspective Tonja E. Withers & Angela D. Valentine 11/15 by Vibration Radio | Women Podcasts

Authors of A Single Perspective Tonja E. Withers & Angela D. Valentine 11/15 by Vibration Radio | Women Podcasts: On This Episode of Teh Beautiful Butterfly Radio Show We Welcome the Author of ' A Single Perspective : A Woman's Journey to Wholeness' Tonja E. Withers & Angela D. Valentine . We will discuss how the two ladies came together to create this book, and what they hope people will gain from reading it as well and MORE!!! Meet Our Guests: TONJA E. WITHERS is a saved, single woman in her 40's who has never been married nor has children. She has boldly shared her testimony on how she overcame her struggles with lust, loneliness and insecurities. She is a living witness that singles can find joy in everyday life. She is the founder of The S.I.M. Factor (Singles in Ministry) - a ministry dedicated to empowering and encouraging Christian singles worldwide. ANGELA D. VALENTINE has been a baptized, Spirit-filled believer since the age of 9. She is a preacher's wife, mother of one beautiful son, author, speaker, and psalmist. A true teacher at heart, she has enjoyed ministering the Gospel and serving as Director of Music & Worship Ministries for over 20 years. She has a passion for mentoring women and youth. She is the founder of The Virtuous Businesswomen's Network where she leads an online community of international Christian women in business. Together, Angela and Tonja co-host Single Sisters' Saturdays, a monthly webinar and teleconference sponsored by The Virtuous Businesswomen's Network. These sessions are designed to help women tackle various topics that are not commonly discussed in church settings. Their goal is to help all women (both single and married) be made whole.

Monday, October 31, 2016

It's Official...I'm "That Girl!" - Chapter 66

Well, it's official!  I am "that girl!"  Who's "that girl?"  I'm so glad you asked.  

"That girl" is a child of God who speaks out of any injustice according to God's Word.  For years I have struggled to accept the fact that I'm always the one who points out the hypocrisies, the unfairness and the injustice whether in the workplace or in the church!  I'm always the one who God uses to point out these issues to leadership and I'm always penalized because of it!  Why did God choose me for such a time as this?  Because He did!

When I speak the truth, I speak it in love.  That's the Word!  So, with that said, if I am your friend and if I see you going down a dangerous path, I am going to tell you about it!  If you stop being my friend because of it, then you were never a friend to me in the first place!  Friends should always be honest with one another, but I digress...  If I see hypocrisy operated in the workplace, I will speak up about it!  If I'm penalized or fired because of it, then so be it!  If I see hypocrisy and witchcraft operating in the church, I'm going to speak up about it!  If I'm ostracized by the church because of it, then so be it!

I will no longer apologize for who I am and who God has designed me to be.  According to Psalms 139:14, I am fearfully and wonderfully made!  Just so you know, I can take it just as much as I can dish it.  However, if your criticism of me isn't coming from a loving place, but out of a malicious and spiteful intent, I will call you out on it!   So, yeah I'm THAT GIRL!  So get used to it!

Until next time.....

Sunday, October 2, 2016

I'm Officially a Published Author! - Chapter 65

"Dear Girlfriend,

This is a hard subject for me to tackle. If I may be so transparent, at times, I feel so lost myself. There’s nothing that I want more than to have the comfort of a man. Unfortunately, it’s with ANY man. I’m not sure what it is…the thrill of the chase, the interaction of listening to a man’s voice, the desperation of wanting to be needed by someone…anyone! Yes, I will admit, I could act like Miss Independent and claim that I don’t need a man, that I have Jesus and that’s all I need. But deep down I know that’s a bold-face lie! Newsflash Beloved, Jesus doesn’t keep my bed warm at night! And if some of us stop acting all “holier than thou” and face that truth, we would all be a lot better off! But I digress…."


This is an excerpt from Chapter 2: "Lost and Found" from our book "A Single Perspective: Every Woman's Guide to Wholeness" written by me, Tonja E. Withers and my good friend, Angela D. Valentine. This book is a refreshing and candid book on singleness written from a single and married woman's perspective and rooted in the Word of God. Let this book spark conversations among all women. As we share our experiences with each other, may every woman find her path to healing and wholeness! The eBook is now available for $7.99. You can purchase your copy here: http://thesimfactor.wixsite.com/simfactor/book.

Wednesday, September 21, 2016

What a Difference a Year Makes! - Chapter 64


It's been so long since I've wrote in this blog!  So much has happened since my last entry.

As far as my healing from what I've experienced in Georgia, I'm healed - praise God!  My "undisclosed location," is in New Haven, CT.  I left Georgia on February 28, 2015 on a one-way flight to CT (It's amazing that I took a one-way bus ticket from NY to GA on January 31, 2014 to take a one-way flight back north a year and a month later)!  I've stayed with my cousin (which I was extremely apprehensive about because I know my family can turn on you in the drop of a dime...more on that later).  Two weeks after moving here, I've found a temp job working at a jewish hillel at Yale.  I've met this woman at the job that ultimately became my friend and a blessing from God!  In March, one of my Facebook friends introduced me to this Christian women's networking group (more on that later).

Three and a half months after moving to CT and due to lack of communication, my cousin threw me out of her home with no explanation.  With no where else to go, my friend let me rent a room of an apartment that her sister was also renting at her house.  Seven months after getting the temp job, I was hired permanently with a very important title and decent wages.  By the end of 2015, my friend's sister moved out and I ended up renting the entire apartment (including my room).

When 2016 rolled around, major changes started to happened.  In February, after having a heart felt conversation, the founder of the women's group that I'm in asked me to lead a webinar/conference call called "Single Sisters' Saturday" every third Saturday of the month.  These calls have granted me some open doors for me.  One of these doors included me being asked to speak at a major conference this October on the benefits of being single!  Little ol' me!  God is good!  Another opportunity came out of this venture, but I will mention when it's done (more details to come)!  Okay, that's it for now!

Until next time...