As God is preparing me for my husband, I was looking back at my past relationship (or lack thereof) and I realized they all had something in common. The majority of the guys I was involved with were selfish and immature, yet they all had potential to become great men - but fell short! This is what I call the "king behind the kid" syndrome - a man that has great potential, but still has some maturing to do. However, I labeled this as a syndrome because with most of these men, I saw in them what I WANTED to see and not see these men for WHO THEY REALLY WERE!
Sometimes we as women tends to make life-altering decisions by seeing a man's potential and not take them at face value. I wonder if we are sometimes blinded by love for these men, maybe the sex was so good and you can't see straight, or perhaps we tend to settle, whether it's because we're getting older or we feel that there aren't many options of men available. Whatever the case maybe, it's time that we put a label on it, confront the issue head-on and deal with it!
Ladies, I plead with you! If you're currently in a relationship or even a marriage, and this syndrome describes your situation, I plead that you seek the Lord for a resolution! If the man that you're with has selfish tendencies, immature ways or doesn't value you for the woman that you are, here are your options: either pray for God to change him or you get out of that relationship and start to change YOU! A man will only do what we allow for him to do! If the potential that you've seen in that man hasn't manifested over time, isn't really worth you staying? Isn't really worth you being constantly frustrated over and over again and the situation hasn't changed? Aren't you worth a whole lot more than what you're receiving?
Please share this post with every women you know. Together, let's put this syndrome ON BLAST!
Until next time...
