Where's Holiness in the Church? - Chapter 41

It's official ya'll, I'm tired!

I know that Romans 3:23 says "for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God." Lord knows I've sinned! However, when are WE as the people of God are going to STOP using this scripture as a crutch for our messy lifestyles and behaviors!? 1 Peter 2:5 says "you also, as living stones, are being built up as a spiritual house for a holy priesthood, to offer up spiritual sacrifices acceptable to God through Jesus Christ." Are we suppose to live a life holy and acceptable unto Christ?

I am also tired of people who have been ordained as ministers taken a place as sacred as the pulpit, bringing up their fleshly issues and gripes, slapping scriptures behind their causes and having the AUDACITY to call it from GOD! The devil is a LIAR and the truth ain't in him! I'm tired of people who are suppose to be ministers making a MOCKERY out of the sacred pulpit! The last time I've checked, I thought that carrying a title in the church was to be a SERVANT - a servant of God Himself, a servant to the leader of the church AND a servant to the people of God! Not to rule, reign and CONTROL people and get their jollies off from doing so! It's DISGRACEFUL how some leaders makes a mockery out of GOD! John 13:16 says "I tell you the truth, no servant is greater than his master, nor is a messenger greater than the one who sent him." 2 Peter 2:1 says: "But false prophets also arose among the people, just as there will also be false teachers among you, who will secretly introduce destructive heresies, even denying the Master who bought them, bringing swift destruction upon themselves." I guess this is the case concerning the church overall!

The bottom line is this - I'm a woman of God with integrity, honor and respect of the Word of God! When I see MESS being greatly mistaken for BLESSED, I have to take a stand! My mom always says "if you don't stand for something, you'll fall for anything!" Ephesians 5:27 clearly states "that He might present to Himself the church in all her glory, having no spot or wrinkle or any such thing; but that she would be holy and blameless." This is where the church overall needs to be! So the question is "WHEN ARE WE GOING TO GET THERE?"

Most likely, I will be criticised for my entry or even attacked on the pulpit because I stand on the WORD! I realize now that the more folks attack me, the greater my promotion is in the Kingdom of GOD!

So bring it on...

I'm At My Place Called "There" - Being Saved, Single and Satisfied! - Chapter 39

I have named my blog called "Saved, Single But Not Satisfied" for good reason - because I wasn't satisfied in my singleness. That is until now!

We as people of God all have our crosses to bear, but we each have that place to enter called "there!" That place called "there" could be prosperity, material things, good health, etc. But also, it could be something great like having a closer relationship with God, to have increased wisdom, knowledge and discernment.

My place called "there" is to finally be satisfied in my singleness. To view being single as a blessing and not a curse. To be finally happy with myself so that true love would find me instead of me going to find it! I've got some news for you - after some setbacks, some trials and tribulations and some pruning on God's behalf, I'm finally at that place called "there!" Praise God!

Will I change my blog name? Absolutely not! This blog is a documented journey of all I have endured. I am truly grateful to God for what He has done in my life over the last two years.

What is your place called "there?"

Until next time....

On To The Next One - Chapter 38

I woke up very early this morning and I couldn't go back to sleep for whatever reason. As I looked back on the first six months of this year, I've had some setbacks and disappointments. When it's all said and done, these experiences have made me a stronger and better person. I'm grateful that I've put my trust in God and not in man!

Anyway, as I finally close this chapter of my life and prepare for the next one, I felt led to write a poem. It's my version of saying "deuces" to the past and move on to the next phase of life. Let's see what God has in store!

Thank You For Not Choosing Me

Thank you for not choosing me

to be your lady

to be your financial support system

to be the mother of your baby

All you would have been to me is a stumbling block

a hinderance

a shackle

an obstruction from my blessings

Thank you for not choosing me

to be the love your life

to be your best friend

to be your future wife

All you would have been to me is a hurdle

a handicap

a stone wall

a cramp in my style

My womanhood is too great to be attached to a goldigger

A childish, immature broke nigger

With a crooked smile

All the while

You refuse to obtain your own figures

So your mission was to get a chick with the most dough

A chick you could try to manipulate and control

Now you're stuck like glue

With a chick that's controlling you

Now you've learned you reap what you sow

Now the right man will come along

A man who's confident, gorgeous and strong

With a smile that calms

As I take him in my arms

and he says "this is where I belong!"

So thank you for not choosing me!

(c) 2011 Tonja E. Withers

Heartbreak...CELEBRATE! ~ Chapter 37

As I continue to go on my journey, I came across this blog entry from The Single Woman, a woman I follow on Twitter. I feel that it's appropriate for times like these:

"Quote of the Day:

“Someday you're gonna look back on this moment of your life as such a sweet time of grieving. You'll see that you were in mourning and your heart was broken, but your life was changing...” ~Elizabeth Gilbert

The Single Woman Says:

What are you grieving today? The loss of a relationship? A job? A friendship? Your self worth?

I’m here to tell you that walking through heartbreak is walking on SACRED ground, and never are you in a better position to learn more about WHO YOU REALLY ARE than while waiting on a wound to become a scar.

Bad things are going to happen. People are going to betray you. People are going to walk away. Seasons of your life are going to end, without warning. It’s not gonna be right and it’s not gonna be fair…but here are your choices: Grow BITTER or grow BETTER.

Breakups have a way of shaking us awake and helping us see what we really want vs. what we are willing to settle for. There will come a day when you will look back and thank God that this person or opportunity was removed from your life, because you would have never found YOU if you hadn’t lost THEM.

When we are transitioning from one season of life to the next, life has a way of removing the people and situations from our lives that don’t belong there. Not everyone is meant to make it to the promised land with us. And that’s okayIf you’re in a season of heartbreak right now, I encourage you to pull out the confetti and CELEBRATE, because on the other side of that broken heart is a brand new start. Right now, this very moment, is a defining moment in your life, so face it, embrace it…and watch your wounds turn into wisdom…and your trials turn into treasure."

What Would You Do? - Chapter 36

If a woman falls in love with a man's Godly potential and his calling in Christ, but the man is actually selfish as well as childish and immature, does she stay in love with him and pray for him to change or should she cut her losses and move on?

That's the question that I pose not only to the folks reading this blog but to God as well. I've been back and forth with this thought for a while now. After much consideration, I've cut my losses! To me, it's not worth the trouble to love, care for or even PRAY for a man that saw me as nothing more than a conquest - then moves on the next conquest. Rest assured - after this situation, I will not let another man take me to this place ever again!

However, I am curious. What would you if you were me? Speak your mind!

This will the last time that I will bring up this topic! After this entry, I'm done discussing my feelings of this "person"! (I was really being nice using the word "person"!)

Until next time...

Patience...Oy Vey! - Chapter 35

"Knowing this, that the trying of your faith worketh patience. But let patience have her perfectwork, that ye may be perfect and entire, wanting nothing." James 1:3-4

I see that God is working on my patience! I'm just sayin'!

Without going into too much detail, I am the type of person that observes people's actions and not just their words. I believe that God has given me that gift of discerment when it comes to my interaction with people. Though there are times when I do miss the mark, there are also times when I'm right on the money! I can tell when something's going right and I can also tell when something's going wrong.

Bottom line is I'm asking God to grant me patience when it comes to dealing with His people. I don't like to assume anything! I always want to know where I stand with people, so I know how to deal with them accordingly. I've been screwed over by way too many people in the past. I will not let history repeat itself!

Lord help me! Oy vey!

Until next time....

Self Analysis - Chapter 34

This topic is about self-analysis and importantance of knowing who God says you are and not who people say you are!