What’s up with me keeping friends? - Chapter 22

I completely understand that the greater your calling God has upon your life, the smaller your circle of friends will become. I just didn’t realize to what magnitude!

Over the years, God has been dealing with me in regards to relying on friends when times are hard, need encouragement or lend an ear. In the midst of this, I had let people’s judgements and opinions of me get the better of me. Now I realize that I must fully rely on God in every area of my life because people will fail you, but God never fails! All of the energy I have put in people I now put on God. It has taken me losing several “friends” in order for me to realize that fact.

There are three sets of people in one’s life - confidants, constituents and comrades - that are placed in three different times in their lives - a reason, a season and a lifetime. The comrades will rely around you and cheer you on, but will talk about you behind your back. The constituents will have the same cause or goals as you and will support one another, but if the constituent finds another person that gets to the goal faster than you, they will drop you like a bad habit! The confidants are the ones you keep close to you because they will listen, keeps your secrets and will never throw it back in your face!

The reason, season and lifetime are self-explanatory. If it’s not clear, here it goes - a reason is for a specific purpose that “friend” is in one’s life. A season is a specific time for that “friend” to be in one’s life. But lifetime friends are few and far between. Those are the ones you hold dear to your heart.

I see whose role each person that I call “friend” plays in my life. Although I’m still a bit disappointed at those who have left me or those I had to leave, I know not everyone is meant to be with me forever - and I’m okay with that. I also realize that just as much as people are in my life for a reason, a season or a lifetime, I am in people’s lives for a reason, a season or a lifetime. I’m not meant to be in people’s lives forever either - and I’m okay with that, too!

Until next time...